Mycroft Masada is a nonbinary trans and queer Jewish leader with 30 years of experience who moved to Gaithersburg, Maryland (Montgomery County near Washington DC) from their lifelong home of Boston in 2014. A TransEpiscopal Steering Committee member and former Congregation Am Tikva board member, Mycroft is particularly called to pursue LGBTQ+ and fat justice, and is an advocate, organizer, consultant, educator, trainer, writer and artist. They are married to Julia McCrossin, the mas(s)culine fatshion blogger, and with her they co-parent a dogter. Their central online home is MasadArts.blogspot.com.


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Monday, June 9, 2014

TransFaith @ Philadelphia Trans Health Conference


Transfaith™ is a national non-profit that is led by transgender people
and focused on issues of faith and spirituality.

See you at PTHC!

This week is the 13th Annual Philadelphia Trans-Health Conference -- the largest transgender-specific conference in the world. Visit our table. We hope to see you there!
 

Wednesday Pre-Event

Transfaith's annual pre-event at PTHC will be Wednesday, June 11, 2014, beginning at 3pm Eastern. Feel free to begin gathering at 2:30pm at the William Way Community Center 1315 Spruce St, Philadelphia, PA 19107.
Creating Meaningful Ritual for Diverse Groups
We will gather and discuss thoughts and considerations in creating meaningful ritual in gatherings of diverse people - religious, spiritual, non-spiritual. Louis Mitchell and Lynn Young will facilitate a discussion about religious privilege among other types of often unconsidered privileges. We will create ritual together and share a meal.
The main gathering will run until 6pm and you are welcome to stay after for a vegetarian meal. Please RSVP for dinner so we can order enough food!

New Spirituality Room

The PTHCSpirituality Working Group is thrilled to announce that this year, for the first time, there will be a spirituality-designated room at the conference. Every year there are a number of special events such as worship, meditation, yoga, and more; this year all such events can be housed in the same room and we'll have much more flexibility in terms of timing.
We need your help! We are still seeking and scheduling events in this room. Do you have something to offer? Ideas for events:
  • Sacred rituals
  • Sharing/teaching spiritual practices
  • Worship services or circles
  • Prayer and/or meditation
  • Opportunities for pastoral care
  • Ceremonies
  • Other creative ideas
Consider sharing your gifts and your spiritual practices with the Philly Trans Health community. If you know others who might have something to offer, please forward this invitation to them. We are looking to create a diverse and varied slate of spiritual opportunities. Please email Alex at alexleekapitan (at) gmail (dot) com to express your interest and share your proposals!

More Events at PTHC

Native Smudge & Drum Circle - Thurs & Sat 11:50am-12:35pm :: on Arch St (weather permitting)
Native/ First Nations/ Aboriginal Gathering Space - Throughout the conference at the end of the main hallway
Yoga - Daily 10am-Noon in Room 108A
Shabbat Dinner and Shabbat Service - Dinner at 5:45pm and Service at 7pm at Arch St United Methodist Church, 55 S. Broad St (2 blocks from the convention center)
Quakerism 101: A Wor(k)ship - Saturday at 2:20pm
 
You can find us at
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chris@transfaithonline.org
www.transfaithonline.org
Transfaith affirms, empowers, and engages transgender and gender non-conforming people and their communities.
Through education and collaboration, we equip and cultivate diverse expressions of gender-affirming spiritual vitality.
Please invite others to join us!
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Rev. Cameron Partridge will be first trans priest to preach at Washington National Cathedral

My Massachusetts colleague Rev. Cameron Partridge is preaching at Washington National Cathedral on the 22nd!  The first openly trans priest to do so!  Rt. Rev. Gene Robinson -- first openly gay priest to become a bishop -- will preside. And Julia and I will be there! And there will be a live webcast.  Here is the Cathedral's post on their website; they had a similar flyer displayed at their Capital Pride festival booth yesterday.

Quite the purple-letter day for the Episcopal Church, Integrity USA, TransEpiscopal (Cameron co-chairs and I’m a member), my fellow alumni of Saint Luke’s & Margaret’s (SLAM; Cameron’s church in Allston/Brighton which closed), Interfaith Coalition for Transgender Equality (Cameron’s a founder and former co-chair) and others.

Here’s the Huffington Post piece, which includes TransFaith, Saint Paul's Cathedral Boston, and more.

Saturday, June 7, 2014

Adelphi Friends Meeting’s Strawberry Festival

AFM's Strawberry Fest Facebook event image.  Probably from last year.  The tent that sold boxes and cases of strawberries looked much like this today, including the cute flag; staffed by different people, though.

We considered the Capital Pride parade today, but had some issues, and got a tip about the Adelphi Friends Meeting’s Strawberry Festival. And we had a great time, including seeing the fellow TransFaith family that invited us, and a friend from the fat community and their friend.

And we found a shirt like Cam's on "Modern Family" for Julia! Which I’ve been wanting to get her since I first saw him; his are custom, this is a Brooklyn Xpress (3X). And a sterling silver vase brooch like David Suchet's Hercule Poirot (Agatha Christie) for me, which I’ve wanted since I saw him; can also be a mezuzah and more. We also found a silk necktie in black-and-white houndstooth for J, and a great purple-and-gray sweater and white-and-black short-sleeve blouse for me.

And we had a 'The Works' – strawberries, pound cake, ice cream, whipped cream, chocolate. And we took home a box of strawberries.

And ALL OF THE ABOVE for $18 -- yes, chai, “alive / living”!


Friday, June 6, 2014

Keshet's 'Your Jewish Guide For Celebration LGBT Pride'

Shabbat shalom!!

Keshet has 'Your Jewish Guide For Celebrating LGBT Pride', with events (US and Canada), graphics and other resources -- http://www.keshetonline.org/pride/. You can still add events, too.

Attached is one of my fave graphics, Keshet’s Jewish Bear flag, which was displayed at their Boston Pride booth last year.  I want to see even more intersectional art, like “Zaftig & Queer”, “I  {heart}* Zaftig Queers”, “Fatphobia is an abomination”, etc. And what about Jewish disability pride? And Jews of color, and...the possibilities are endless!  (*I just learned that using a less-than symbol and a 3 here to make a heart causes HTML drama.) 

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Happy Shavuot!!


























Happy Erev Shavuot from our Fatshion Bugg and the rest of us!

We are going to do errands – pretty fun ones, though – and then stay home. But you know it’s like Shavuot most every night at our house. And if we were in Boston we’d probably be teaching at the Brookline Area Community Tikkun Leil Shavuot 5774. And here in the DMV there’s Bet Mishpachah's dairy potluck and special service “What does revelation mean? Mysticism, Feminism, Poetry and Beyond”, and the DC JCC's GLOE - GLBT Outreach & Engagement, and maybe more.

We are planning on attending the National Erev Pride Shabbat this Friday.

Philly Trans Health Conference - Spirituality Room

There will be a Spirituality Room at the Philadelphia Trans-Health Conference next week, and proposals are still being sought!

"Spiritual events sought for PTHC


Dear friend,

I hope you are getting excited for this year's Philly Trans Health Conference!

The Spirituality Working Group is thrilled to announce that this year, for the first time, there will be a spirituality-designated room at the conference. Every year there are a number of special events such as worship, meditation, yoga, and more; this year all such events can be housed in the same room and we'll have much more flexibility in terms of timing.

We need your help! We are still seeking and scheduling events in this room. Do you have something to offer?

Ideas for events:
  • Sacred rituals 
  • Sharing/teaching spiritual practices 
  • Worship services or circles
  • Prayer and/or meditation 
  • Opportunities for pastoral care 
  • Ceremonies 
  • Other creative ideas 
Consider sharing your gifts and your spiritual practices with the Philly Trans Health community. If you know others who might have something to offer, please forward this invitation to them. We are looking to create a diverse and varied slate of spiritual opportunities.

Please email me at alexleekapitan@gmail.com to express your interest and share your proposals!

Warmly,
Alex Kapitan
PTHC Spirituality Working Group Co-Convener"

Monday, June 2, 2014

Happy Pride Month!!!

Happy Pride Month!!!

Here is the piece I helped write for Episcopal Church of the Ascension’s monthly newsletter The Ascendant -- click here for the June issue:

June is LGBT Pride Month!

Among its many other meanings, June is LGBT Pride Month; locally, nationally and internationally. In June of 1969, lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer (LGBTQ) people at the Stonewall Inn in New York City fought back against a police raid – a watershed moment in the struggle for LGBTQ equality. Every June since, there have been more Pride observances in more secular and faith communities -- marches, festivals, worship services and much more -- including here in the ‘DMV’ (DC/MD/VA). Over the years, the LGBTQ community’s annual calendar has also grown to include other special days, such as the international Transgender Day of Remembrance each November, where we remember those who have lost their lives to transphobia.

The Episcopal Church has been a leader in the journey towards LGBTQ social justice since at least the 1970s, within the Church and the larger faith community as well as in the secular world. We in the EC are blessed with our own LGBT organization, Integrity USA, and its transgender-focused partner TransEpiscopal. Part of Integrity’s ministry is inviting Episcopal communities to become Believe Out Loud congregations, who publicly welcome and affirm LGBT people and have completed a six-step process. Ascension is proud to be a BOL church -- see http://www.ascensionmd.org/about-us/believe-out-loud/.

One of the ways we believe out loud is our ongoing Connection Hour conversation series Experiencing Diversity At Ascension, which includes LGBTQ issues along with race, class, gender, ability, health, age and more. We encourage you to join us for the next part, on Sunday June 8th at 10:15 a.m. in Room 1; please see the full ED@A update in this issue and/or our other communications.

For more information about LGBT people in the Church, we invite you to visit http://www.episcopalchurch.org/page/lgbt-church."

Sunday, June 1, 2014

Ascension Sunday

“Let us with gladness present the offerings and oblations of our life and labor to the Lord.
Presentemos al Señor con alegría las ofrendas y oblaciones de nuestra vida y de nuestro trabajo.”

Today is Ascension Sunday; as for the last few years, Episcopal Church of the Ascension combined the 11:00 Spanish and 11:15 English services into a bilingual service at 11 in a pavilion in Bohrer Park (we still had most or all of our other usual services etc.), followed by the annual parish picnic at 12:30.

Julia made pasta salad (pesto tortellini, mozzarella balls, strawberries, candied walnuts, basil from our garden; olive oil, balsamic vinegar, dijon mustard, garlic, salt -- click here for the recipe), I made fauxitos (mojitos from Newman's Own limeade, Giant Food seltzer water, and mint from our garden; fun fact, Giant has merged with Stop & Shop, which began as a Jewish family's grocery store in my native Boston, and among other connections was one of my father's freelance photography clients).


Fairness For All Marylanders Act - UPDATE again


Opponents failed to gather enough signatures to file a petition by midnight last night -- 
the Fairness For All Marylanders Act will not be overturned! 
#FAMA14 updates MD’s anti-discrimination law to include trans people, 
was signed by the governor on May 15th and will now go into effect October 1st!
Thanks so much to everyone who worked so hard to defend the Act! 

#FAMA14  #StandforFairness

Thursday, May 29, 2014

Ascension Day


Today is my late Mum’s 75th birthday (she passed in 2000 at 61). And this year it’s also Ascension Day, and Episcopal Church of the Ascension had an AD service. So that works out well. Not nearly as well as spending the night at my mother’s birthday party, but. 


Also, I noticed that when Maya Angelou’s Facebook page announced her passing yesterday, they referenced ascension: “Her family is extremely grateful that her ascension was not belabored by a loss of acuity or comprehension.”

Sunday, May 25, 2014

Fairness For All Marylanders Act - UPDATE!

Went to Equality Maryland’s Fairness For All Marylanders Act training at Open Door Metropolitan Community Church today. 

#FAMA14 updates MD’s anti-discrimination law to include trans people, was signed by the governor on the 15th and should go into effect October 1st – but opponents are gathering signatures for a ballot referendum towards repealing the Act, and supporters need to act to prevent this. Get the FAQs at http://bit.ly/FAMAFAQs, sign the pledge at http://bit.ly/StandForFairness, and spread the word everywhere. If you see opposition signature-gatherers, call 1.856.624.3247 or email FairnessWatch@gmail.com. Volunteers are also needed. #StandforFairness

We’d been wanting to visit Open Door, and they made a very good impression; we plan to attend a service soon. And, small world – a few church members recognized Julia from a queer bowling league more than a decade ago.

Wednesday, May 14, 2014

Interfaith mediation event

The images are from Etsy – I found them and a few others while shopping for interfaith jewelry making supplies; I don’t think I’ve ever seen a magen David / cross / crescent design before, in any context (metal one here, wooden one here).

At Episcopal Church of the Ascension, our priest, Rev. Randy Lord-Wilkinson, is also the convener of the Gaithersburg Interfaith Alliance; thus and otherwise are we connected with the Interfaith Meditation Initiative based in Washington DC – their mission is to bring together ordained and lay religious leaders from diverse faiths to share meditation with each other and with public audiences in churches, synagogues, mosques, temples, and universities.

IMI had a previous event that included Ascension last November 6th; hosted by Kehilat Shalom, led by their Rabbi Charles Arian along with Randy and Imam Bahsar Arafat of the Civilizations Exchange and Cooperation Foundation

Julia wasn’t able to attend, and I wasn’t visiting, so we were glad to hear about tonight.  And this time we were at Ascension, in the chapel building.  We began at 7:30, and Rabbi Arian and Rev. Randy were joined by Waleed Ziad of the International Cultural Center and Andrew Stern, IMI’s Founding President.  It was quite a small group that attended, just a few from each community at most; but though it’s a shame that so many people missed it, there was something good about the intimacy and all.  We had a welcome from Randy, an introduction from Andrew, and then Rabbi Charles, Mr. Ziad, and Randy each spoke briefly about mediation in the context of their faith tradition and guided us in mediation exercises; in between, Andrew led us in stretching and Randy in chair yoga.

One highlight was the body size and shape diversity – the presenters ranged from smaller than me to larger than Julia, and alas the latter is a rare experience for us in most spaces.  Another was how well the Muslim piece worked for me – especially the chanting of “Al-lah” – which I know was partly because I’ve had too little experience with Islamic practice.  And on a related note, amen to Randy’s bio:  “His experience with classical Christian spirituality, especially Centering Prayer and the Spiritual Exercises of Ignatius of Loyola, is that prayer impels Christians into social justice.”  (Yes, socially unjust Xtians -- the power of Christ impels you!)    

Charles and Waleed led us in a combination of personal meditations on individual words – I chose “mensch” – and communal chants of sacred Hebrew and Arabic phrases.  Randy gave us a handout on Lectio Divina, divine reading, a Benedictine practice of scriptural reading, meditation and prayer. 

For scripture, we were given the Common English Bible versions of 1 Kings 19: 3-13 and 1 Corinthians 13, and fifteen passages from the Qur’an -- Chapter 49 : Verse 13, 60:8, 5:46, 4:85, 41:34-5, 3:133-4, 16:97, 90:12-17, 24:35, 24:41, 30:21, 7:199, 2:136, 19:16-21, 17:23-4. 

Click here to see the Praying With Scripture lectio divina handout (PDFed scan of my hard copy).  I don't have a soft copy of the scripture handout, but I could get or make one. 

1 Kings spoke to me particularly about my discernment process around my new life here in Maryland (I’ve always lived in Massachusetts, in metro Boston, and moved here in January to begin living with Julia, who has always lived here).  “Why are you here, Elijah?”  Why are you here, Mycroft?  Why am I here? 

1 Kings 19
Elijah was terrified.  He got up and ran for his life.  He arrived at Beer-sheba in Judah and left his assistant there.  He himself went farther on into the desert a day’s journey.  He finally sat down under a solitary broom bush.  He longed for his own death: “It’s more than enough, Lord!  Take my life because I’m no better than my ancestors.”  He lay down and slept under the solitary broom bush.

Then suddenly a messenger tapped him and said to him, “Get up! Eat something!”  Elijah opened his eyes and saw flatbread baked on glowing coals and a jar of water right by his head. He ate and drank, and then went back to sleep.  The Lord’s messenger returned a second time and tapped him. “Get up!” the messenger said. “Eat something, because you have a difficult road ahead of you.”  Elijah got up, ate and drank, and went refreshed by that food for forty days and nights until he arrived at Horeb, God’s mountain.  There he went into a cave and spent the night.

The Lord’s word came to him and said, “Why are you here, Elijah?” 

Elijah replied, “I’ve been very passionate for the Lord God of heavenly forces because the Israelites have abandoned your covenant.  They have torn down your altars, and they have murdered your prophets with the sword.  I’m the only one left, and now they want to take my life too!”

The Lord said, “Go out and stand at the mountain before the Lord.  The Lord is passing by.”  A very strong wind tore through the mountains and broke apart the stones before the Lord.  But the Lord wasn’t in the wind. After the wind, there was an earthquake.  But the Lord wasn’t in the earthquake.  After the earthquake, there was a fire.  But the Lord wasn’t in the fire.  After the fire, there was a sound.  Thin.  Quiet.  When Elijah heard it, he wrapped his face in his coat.  He went out and stood at the cave’s entrance.

A voice came to him and said, “Why are you here, Elijah?”

* * * * * * *

1 Corinthians spoke to me especially about the miracle of finally finding true love with Julia, and within that sharing this experience with her tonight.   

1 Corinthians 13
If I speak in tongues of human beings and of angels but I don’t have love, I’m a clanging gong or a clashing cymbal.  If I have the gift of prophecy and I know all the mysteries and everything else, and if I have such complete faith that I can move mountains but I don’t have love, I’m nothing.  If I give away everything that I have and hand over my own body to feel good about what I’ve done but I don’t have love, I receive no benefit whatsoever.

Love is patient, love is kind, it isn’t jealous, it doesn’t brag, it isn’t arrogant, it isn’t rude, it doesn’t seek its own advantage, it isn’t irritable, it doesn’t keep a record of complaints, it isn’t happy with injustice, but it is happy with the truth.  Love puts up with all things, trusts in all things, hopes for all things, endures all things.  Love never fails.

As for prophecies, they will be brought to an end.  As for tongues, they will stop.  As for knowledge, it will be brought to an end.  We know in part and we prophesy in part; but when the perfect comes, what is partial will be brought to an end.  When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, reason like a child, think like a child.  But now that I have become a man, I’ve put an end to childish things.  Now we see a reflection in a mirror; then we will see face-to-face.  Now I know partially, but then I will know completely in the same way that I have been completely known.  Now faith, hope, and love remain – these three things – and the greatest of these is love.

* * * * * * *

The Qur'an readings reminded me that I need to read much more of and about the Qur'an, though of course they were meaningful in other ways as well.  In our scripture handout, each passage was preceded by a phrase summarizing the theme -- I think this was primarily intended to help new-to-Islam readers.    

O mankind!  We created you from a male and a female and made you into nations and tribes that you may know and honor each other (not that you should despise one another).  Indeed the most honorable of you in the sight of God is the most righteous.
* * *
God does not forbid you to be kind and equitable to those who have neither fought against your faith nor driven you out of your homes.  In fact God loves the equitable.
* * *
And in their [the earlier prophets] footsteps We sent Jesus the son of Mary, confirming the law that  had come before him.  We sent him the Gospel, therein was guidance and light and confirmation of the law that had come before him, a guidance and an admonition to those who fear God.
* * *
Whoever recommends and helps a good cause becomes a partner therein, and whoever recommends and helps an evil cause shares in its burden.
***
Repel (evil) with what is better.  Then will he, between whom and thee was hatred, become as it were thy friend and intimate.  And no one will be granted such goodness except those who exercise patience and self-restraint.
***
Be quick in the race for forgiveness from your Lord, and for a Garden (paradise) whose width is that of the heavens and of the earth, prepared for the righteous -- Those who spend (freely), whether in prosperity or in adversity, who restrain (their) anger and pardon (all) men -- for God loves those who do good.
***
Whoever works righteousness, man or woman, and has faith, verily, to them will We give a new Life, a life that is good and pure, and We will bestow on such their reward according to the best of their actions.
***
And what will explain to you what the steep path is?  It is the freeing of a (slave) from bondage; or the giving of food in a day of famine to an orphan relative, or to a needy in distress.  Then will he be of those who believe, enjoy fortitude and encourage kindness and compassion.
***
God is the Light of the heavens and the earth.  The parable of His Light is as if there were a Niche, and within it a lamp; the Lamp enclosed in Glass; the glass a brilliant star, lit from a blessed Tree, an Olive neither of the East nor of the West whose Oil is well-nigh luminous through fire scarce touched it.  Light upon Light!  God doth guide whom He will to His Light.
***
Seest though not that it is God whose praises all beings in the heavens and on earth do celebrate, (even) the birds (of the air) with wings outspread?  Each one knows its own (mode of) prayer and praise.
***
And among His signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts); verily in that are signs for those who reflect.
***
Show forgiveness, speak for justice and avoid the ignorant.
***
Say ye:  We believe in God and the revelation given to us and to Abraham, Ismail, Isaac, Jacob, and the Tribes, and that given to Moses and Jesus, and that given to (all) Prophets from their Lord.  We make no difference between one and another of them, and we bow to God.
***
Relate in the Book (the story of) Mary, when she withdrew from her family to a place in the East.  She placed a screen (to screen herself) from them:  then We sent to her Our angel and he appeared before her as a man in all respects.  She said:  I seek refuge from thee to (God) Most Gracious:  (come not near) if thou dost fear God.  He said:  Nay I am only a messenger from thy Lord (to announce) to thee the gift of a holy son.  She said:  How shall I have a son seeing that no man has touched me and I am not unchaste?  He said:  So (it will be):  thy Lord saith:  That is easy for Me:  and (We wish) to appoint him as a Sign unto men and a Mercy from Us:  it is a matter (so) decreed.
***

In conclusion, we were asked to find a fellow attendee we didn’t know and share our impressions with each other for a few minutes; my confidante was a young woman from a Sufi community.  And then Andrew invited the presenters to give a closing thought if they wished.  

It was hard to believe we had been there less than an hour and a half when it was time to schlep the refreshments from the main church building, set them up, and refresh ourselves with them and conversation. And less than half an hour later when we headed for home.  

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Sunday, April 20, 2014

Easter Sunday 2014

The image from the cover of the bulletin – for some reason it was made of these five pieces in the online PDF; I could have put the puzzle back together, but I thought it was better to do it this way (I copied and pasted the pieces onto a PowerPoint slide, arranged them like this, saved the slide as a jpg, and cropped it in Picasa).  My favorite thing about the image is that the person and the style of art look African / of color; and we do have a significant number of African members at Ascension.

-- Venantius Honorius Fortunatus 

We began our Easter Sunday by giving Julia's mum an Easter basket -- treats, toys, turtle bag and greeting cards (from us and her grandogter Ursula) from a dollar store; Cadbury Flake egg with four Flake bars inside from a mall candy shop that includes British imports.


Here we are in our church clothes -- the last of our five church outfits each this week! Whew. J's purple pants (!) from Tommy Hilfiger via Casual Male XL (on clearance), tie from Geoffrey Beene via TJMaxx; my scarf from our local Goodwill of Greater Washington (tags cut off), jewels by Artemisia Studio (Emanda Johnson) of Etsy.


The table in the narthex with the bulletins about who gave Easter flowers in memory / honor of whom.  The plants are kalanchoes in orange – J’s mum has one as a houseplant.

We went to the 11:00 service – there was also a 9:00, and we arrived so early (because as at many Easter and Xmas services, both were standing room only) that it wasn’t over yet.  So we got to see all of those people leave, and talk with the ones we knew.  It was particularly nice to see everyone so dressed up -- including a lot of purple.  
Our new nametags – our first ones here, which became available at the service last night – came in handy!

The service was very good – though as high-churchy as we are, we would have welcomed even more “smells and bells”, including a thurible (incense burner).  And I liked that it was called The Sunday Of The Resurrection : Easter Day, like a movie.  
Our usual musical suspects – organist / choirmaster / cantor and choir -- were joined by one of the several versions of the Sterling Brass division of Sterling Artists.
We were seated at one of the windows that looks out into the rest of that floor and down into the floor below – at one point I saw some adults and children in the seating area down there, the children with their empty baskets waiting for the egg hunt; we got to see more of them as we left, as they gathered in the pews for the Children’s Service at 12:30.
We heard John 20:1-18 in English and Spanish.
We prayed for those victimized by gun violence at the Jewish Community Center of Greater Kansas City and everywhere else.
Our priest, Randy, couldn’t get to us during the Peace to give us his usual hugs, so he gave us the peace sign with his hand – why didn’t I ever think of that?
Again we had a round loaf of bread instead of our usual pita – and this time J noticed that it had a design on top – three flowers with stems, she thought, maybe daisies.
All told, an hour and forty minutes (as opposed to about an hour), but it didn’t seem nearly that long, or too long; though we covered a lot of ground.



For Easter dinner, at her mum’s request, J made a pot roast with potatoes, carrots, celery and onions (and beef broth and a packet of soup mix) in her crock pot; mashed potatoes with cream cheese, half-and-half, butter, and salt and pepper; and a store-bought loaf of bread that you finish baking at home.
And I made a salad with many kinds of leaves, cucumber, red bell pepper, carrots and celery.
And for dessert, a store-bought yellow cake with lemon frosting and coconut shavings.

And a special Happy Peaster from our Easter Buggy, whose Zia J sent her a Puppy Cake cake (carob) and frosting (yogurt) kit from which we made six cupcakes.  More in Ursula’s Facebook Group.



Saturday, April 19, 2014

Erev Easter 2014



“Rejoice and sing now, all the round earth,
Bright with a glorious splendor, for darkness has been vanquished by our eternal King.”
 -- Book Of Common Prayer
(Easter Vigil, page 286)

“They feast upon the abundance of your house;
You give them drink from the river of your delights.”
-- Psalm 36:8
(Common English Bible)

As part of our Holy Week havdalah, we went to the Great Vigil of Easter service at Episcopal Church of the Ascension (click here for the bulletin).  It was so good to see the altar cloths and other moveable furnishings replaced, after having seen them stripped away at the end of the Maundy Thursday service and absent at last night’s Good Friday service.  How much more so, to see them transformed into the Easter versions – spring flowers, multi-colored and metallic ye olde tapestry cloths and vestments, special candles, the handmade “He Is Risen” banner.

We gathered inside and were all given candles, then went out to gather around a little Weber grill on the front walk, where the priest kindled the new fire and lit the Paschal Candle; he led us back in in three stages with a versicle and response, and our candles were lit as we went.

It was a good, long, full service.  Some of my favorite aspects:
  • The way it was woven of threads from the other Holy Week services, plus new and old ones.

  • The vigil and transformation concepts and themes, especially their relationship with trans* people – putting me again in mind of the international Transgender Day of Remembrance (November 20th), including the use of individual candles.  The individual candles also reminded me of our and other Christmas services, and those felt more recent and related than ever before.  I also thought about how the Apostles couldn't stay up with Jesus on the eve of his death, and yet we stay up with him tonight.  And of the Pesach seder:  Why is this night different from all other nights?   

  • The tapestry of the altar cloths depicts ye olde urns and flowering plants, but it also looks like hot air balloons, and their 1980s revival was part of my childhood – mostly symbolically, though we did see them in person at least once when visiting the part of my mother’s family that lived in the Southwest.

  • The little white plastic holders for our individual candles made them look like small Unitarian Universalist flaming chalices (the primary symbol of that tradition and Association).
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  • There were many explicit and implicit connections between Judaism and Christianity (my faiths) – Passovers, Diasporas, candle-lighting, Cantors and more.  As in Jewish community, I was particularly mindful of people all over the world doing this same thing at this same time.  

  • We were read Genesis and Thanksgiving Over The Water – both especially relevant as Earth Day is this coming Tuesday (April 22nd); the latter begins “We thank you, Almighty God, for the gift of water.  Over it the Holy Spirit moved in the beginning of creation.”  And Genesis is central to trans* theology for many Jews, Christians and others:  “So God created humankind in his image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.” – it’s even better when better translated.
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  • “O God, who wonderfully created, and yet more wonderfully restored, the dignity of human nature…” (the beginning of a contemporary version of a Collect from the Book Of Common Prayer) – doesn’t / can’t this happen to each of us, many times, during our lives?  If we let it  -- if we meet it.
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  • Being challenged for the second time this week by the story of the Red Sea (Exodus 14:10-31, 15:20-21), especially God’s hardening the Egyptians’ hearts when they wanted to stop oppressing the Israelites – as He had done to Pharaoh not long before.
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  • Two sisters, a small girl and a baby, were baptized.  The older girl reminded me of myself at her age or thereabouts, especially because of her page boy haircut.  She was especially entertaining because she wasn’t shy about standing up on tiptoe and holding onto the baptismal font with both hands to look in, or dancing around it – the priest told us she dances at the service her family attends every Sunday – but when he asked her to look in she became quite shy.  And the last three questions of the Baptismal Covenant are central to me in my faith and ministry, and are part of the sermons I’m writing about trans* and fat justice: 
Celebrant:  Will you proclaim by word and example the Good News of God in Christ?
People:       I will, with God’s help.

Celebrant:  Will you seek and serve Christ in all persons, loving your neighbor as yourself?
People:       I will, with God’s help.

Celebrant:  Will you strive for justice and peace among all people, and respect the dignity of every human being?
People:       I will, with God’s help.

(Book of Common Prayer, pages 304-305)

Also, it turns out that Ascension has a tradition of giving baptisees a white taper candle at the end of the ritual.

And now, a few more photos.

The Easter eggs, given by congregants, having their own vigil in the narthex as they wait for the hunt after services tomorrow.  (Aren’t the egg baskets that are also eggs cute?  They're sort of like some classic alien flying saucer designs, too.)



They made our nametags!  Our first ones here.  We’ll wear them tomorrow.


The little BBQ we used for the new fire and candles, waiting the Altar Guild to come and collect it.

Friday, April 18, 2014

Good Friday 2014

"It was certainly our sickness that he carried, 
and our sufferings that he bore, 
but we thought him afflicted, 
struck down by God and tormented." 

-- Isaiah 53:4

This is the graphic from Episcopal Church of the Ascension's Good Friday bulletin.

We attended the 7:30 service; there was also a noon.  This is our first Holy Week at Ascension, we started attending in July.  

It was an interesting combination of Wednesday's Tenebrae service -- including the responsive reading of a Psalm -- and last Sunday's Palm Sunday (Sunday of the Passion) service -- including another dramatic reading of the Passion.  

It was strange and hard to see the altar and all behind it stripped bare -- especially as last night's Stripping of the Altar (at the end of the Maundy Thursday service) had so powerfully reminded me of the closing of Episcopal and other churches, including my own home church back in Boston.  How much more so, to see the more than half life-size plain wooden crucifix lying against it.  I noticed that the Book Of Common Prayer said that you could bring it in at some point during the service, but I don't think that that would be good, or at least not as good.

It was also very striking to see the cupboard in the wall where part of the communion supplies are kept with its small wooden door wide open, revealing the empty white box of its inside, like a tiny tomb.  

I think a lot could be -- and probably has been -- done with Isaiah's description of the Lord's servant as 'ugly', "inhuman, his appearance unlike that of mortals", disabled, ill etc. (our first reading was 52:13 - 53:12, the Common English Bible version). 

I appreciated that the sermon started with a long bit about the anti-Semitism stemming from the misunderstanding of the Judean / Jewish authorities' role in Jesus' death.  

And of course it was all a very interesting way to begin Shabbat!

Thursday, April 17, 2014

Maundy Thursday 2014



Maundy Thursday 2014 at Episcopal Church of the Ascension.  The choir sings the Anthem at the Offertory (collection), “In A Borrowed Tomb” (text J. Paul Williams, music Patti Drennan).

“As servant, then, he knelt at their feet, at their feet,
As servant, then, he knelt at their feet;
As servant, then, he knelt, a servant’s towel for belt,
He showed the love he felt at their feet, at their feet,
He showed the love he felt at their feet.

“‘What I have done for you in my love, in my love,
What I have done for you in my love;
What I have done for you, so you are called to do,
To be a servant true in your love, in your love,
To be a servant true in your love.’”

What Wondrous Love Is This
Gather 2nd edition #295
Our Hymn at the Procession

This service was quite emotional and challenging for us – mostly unexpectedly so, and more so than any other part of Holy Week so far.  

This was partly because there was footwashing – in front of the altar, members washed each other’s feet as they felt called to; behind the pews, the priest washed the feet of anyone who wished it – but though we wanted to participate, we didn’t feel ready.  On the one hand, we know that's part of the point -- but on the other, we are still new to this church / Church, and to this ritual.  Julia has never been part of it, and I only have once -- at the late great Saint Luke's & Saint Margaret's, also known as "SLAM", a lovely little Episcopal church in Brighton / Allston MA that was closed a year after I began attending.  SLAM was in the parish where Rita Hester was murdered in 1998 -- leading to the creation of the international Transgender Day Of Remembrance -- was led by Rev. (Dr.) Cameron Partridge, one of only several out trans priests in the Episcopal Church, and was otherwise a rare and precious thing.  But the SLAM footwashing is actually a funny memory, too, as the water we used turned out to be far too cold!    

It was especially emotional and challenging -- and especially surprisingly so -- to witness the Stripping of the Altar, as we sang "Jesus, remember me, when you come into your Kingdom" over and over (Gather 2nd edition #293).  I was powerfully reminded of the past and potential closures of Episcopal and other churches, and so of course of SLAM again.  I didn't participate in any of the closure-preparation stripping at SLAM, though I was asked to, and I wish I had.  

In the silence afterwards, as the last things were stripped away, and we were free to stay or depart in silence, the little boy in the pew behind us, who had mostly been busy with the coloring books the church provides, asked his mother "Why are you crying?"  

As Julia said to me as we made our way home:  "Sometimes it's just a story...and sometimes it's real."

Here is the bulletin.

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Tenebrae (Shadows / Darkness) service 2014

We continued our Holy Week tonight with the Tenebrae (Shadows / Darkness) service at Episcopal Church of the Ascension.

It was our first Tenebrae ever, too. Very different, and very good. Our priest, Senior Warden, and Mission Area Leader for Worship led us through responsive readings of several Psalms, readings from Isaiah, Hebrews and John, and other texts, while gradually extinguishing the candelabra on the altar and the other lights. Then a great noise was made, the one candle that was hidden lit was restored to its place, and we all departed in silence. Here is the bulletin (the location of the soft copy is one of the little mysteries of the faith, so I’m experimenting with our home office; it's too large for Google Drive to preview, oy, but I'll figure that out or of course switch to the church's link if they upload).

The Tree Of Life necklace I wore is from the Goodwill Boston (MA) in Jamaica Plain last year – amber cabochons in six colors, sterling silver, black leather cord; no maker’s mark.

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Pesach / Passover 2014

Chag Sameach!!

This is our first Pesach / Passover living together.  We considered sedering at Bet Mishpachah (the queer shul of DC) or maybe elsewhere, but decided to celebrate at home.  I was tempted to overthink and overdo it -- as I so tend to! -- but didn't, instead keeping it pretty simple and spontaneous, and it turned out nicely.  I didn't even buy or unpack much, but put it together at the last minute from our recent supermarket finds -- including the good old free Maxwell House haggadah -- and things we already had around the house.  It did help that I've attended and co-led some seders, including the Pride Seder (held in June) invented by my home shul Congregation Am Tikva (the queer one of Boston).    

I had thought to try one of my new jars of gefilte fish tonight, but Julia's mum felt like Chinese food, and we decided to join her -- J and her mum have a tradition of Chinese delivery on Friday nights, and we half-joke that it makes my Jewish self feel more at home here.  We kept it otherwise informal too, and didn't seder per se, but talked about the process and the rest of Pesach -- partly at the request of J's mum, though she knows a fair amount.  The pastor at her former church was actually a former Jew who brought some of his traditions with him, including using matzah for communion and as a Sunday school snack with peanut butter. 

Here is our Pesach table:


A fringed cloth batiked with suns/moons and stars that I found at Boomerangs last year but hadn’t used yet;
Julia’s mum’s Pfaltzgraff Yorktowne plates, silverware and measuring cup (behind the seder plate flowers, containing the traditional salt water);
our seder plate – close-up photo and detailed description in a bit;
Manischewitz egg and Osem dark-chocolate-covered matzah;
Mullingar Pewter goblets depicting Queen Maeve and Brian Boru for our sparkling white grape juice and Miriam’s Well;
the dried purple flowers J's mum saved from the arrangement we took home from J's paternal Gran’s memorial event last month;
a stained-glass ball candle that belonged to my late Mum resting on J’s green glass ye olde Jamestown Virginia souvenir;
and the crosses we made from the palm leaves we were given at Palm Sunday yesterday (we’d never done it before, but found tutorials on YouTube).

Here is a close-up of our seder plate:


Again, the plate is one of Julia’s mum’s Pfaltzgraff Yorktowne ones.

Our maror / chazeret is spinach (though we actually eat it quite often);
Our charoset is cashews, dried apricot, date and cranberries, and a prune (my in-between-meals snacks, especially when I’m working away from home; Prune was one of my childhood nicknames because my name was June);
Our karpas is henbit deadnettle/ greater henbit from our yard in a Lenox crystal vase that was a prize at a dog show when J’s late father used to show dogs;
Our zeroa is two kinds of our dogter Ursula’s treats – a classic bone-shaped biscuit (which she got to eat afterwards, and we particularly like that it says “WOOF” because we’re Bear fans in the queer sense), and a Himalayan Dog Chew’s Yaky Nugget -- a sort of hard-candy made of yak and cow milk with lime juice and salt that you can microwave to make into a chewy puff;
Our beitzah is the usual hard-boiled egg (boiled with several others so we can make egg salad this week), and the egg cup is a panda one I found at Boomerangs for J's birthday;
And we have an orange, inspired by Susannah Heschel’s 1980s creation of a new tradition to further the inclusion of queer and other marginalized people (a Halo-brand orange, no less).

Our poor dogter Ursula didn’t appreciate being passed-over (ha!) for dessert – Osem dark-chocolate-covered matzah – not to mention everything else.  (She's a Pugston Terrier / Bugg -- a Boston Terrier / Pug mix, brindle with a white chest and paws.) 
  

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Palm Sunday 2014


Palm Sunday (Sunday of the Passion) today at our church, Episcopal Church of the Ascension (Gaithersburg MD); just after we of the procession had seated ourselves amidst the rest of the congregation.  

This is our first Holy Week at AscensionJulia began attending in July, I accompanied her a bit during my visits, and then much more so since I moved here from Boston at the end of January.

As often, we chose the 11:15 service (as every Sunday there were several; we've only been to the 5:00). Along with parts of the English and Spanish congregations, we picked up our bulletins and palm leaves in the church, then gathered at our neighbor the new incarnation of Gaithersburg High School -- the previous was Julia's alma mater -- with Rev. Randy and Rev. Sister Elena Thompson (part of the interim leadership of our Spanish services).  There we started the service -- including reading Matthew 21:1-11 in English and Spanish, then processed singing and tambourining -- we were given small white and maroon plastic ones with silver zils – to the church's sanctuary.

Click here for the bulletin.  Highlights included the perfectly Summery Spring day after a very unusually Wintry Winter, half-joking with the other early bird couple at the high school about whether we were in the right place, comparing Pesach plans with another fellow congregant (Passover begins at sunset tomorrow), remembering / learning what else a burrito is, the tambourines reminding me of prophetess Miriam (Moses’ sister), a palm leaf tied into a cross* and attached to the head of the guitar -- we're going to learn how to tie our leaves into crosses too, the red threads of the red-and-purple Jerusalem crosses cross-stitched on the white altar cloths continuing into their fringes reminding me of tzitzit, a woman playing Jesus, another woman Passion player's little son playing the tambourine during every song in his pew -- and doing it well, and  yet another woman's red dress printed with large black and white ye olde keys.

Saturday, April 12, 2014

Shabbat shalom and Steynovitz!

Shabbat shalom!!

Look at what we just received from the ever-astounding Marcia Garber! Thank you so much!!!!

The late Zamy Steynovitz’s “Shabbat Bouquet” (signed artist proof). Marcia had e-mailed us that she’d donated in our honor at Mass Trans Political Coalition (MTPC)’s annual benefit event Lawyers For Transgender Rights, and that she had something to send us, but we had no idea--! She saw this in the LTR silent auction and thought of us. And her enclosed card was lovely in every way as well.

And how especially bashert that it arrived as we were preparing to begin Shabbat, and in the same delivery as a flowering tree that Julia's mum had ordered!