Well. My National Coming Out Day (#NCOD) posting prayers have been answered.
My partner Julia McCrossin: “This is my experience, the not being made fun of or criticized for my queerness, but dehumanized for my fatness. If only more people cared about my dignity and equality as a fat woman as they do for my queerness.”
Julia has written about her experience at her blog – see especially "The Rest Of The (Fat) Story".
The below article definitely has some issues – for one thing, ableism / racism / transphobia et al should have been addressed earlier and better.
I’d also like to see a lot more conversation about how actually you often do need to decide whether to come out as fat (or formerly fat, or okay with becoming / wanting to become fat/ter; or fat-allied) – like here on the internet – and how much more so, how you often need to decide whether to come out as being on the fat-positive spectrum. And how unsafe those disclosures can be. (Tolerate your doctor’s fatphobia, or disagree and risk worse treatment / no treatment?) And how that relates to the true complexity of queer outness / disclosure issues, especially for trans people.
Nu, without further ado -- Louis Peitzman's "It Gets Better, Unless You're Fat" for Buzz Feed.